People are not disturbed by things, but by the view they take of them.
Hello and welcome back to the al-holic blog.
I know it has been a long hiatus since my last post but after encountering certain events in my day to day activities in life, I felt compelled once more to write about my thoughts and point of views towards the observed life I have.
For those who had previously seen my older posts, fret not as my feelings of depression and low self-worth is more or less been “re-adjusted” into much more positive forms of expressions. In other words, I’m not likely to go on an insane downward spiral of depressing expressions of text, which I suspect is kind of lame.
Anyway, back to the topic at hand.
Are we humans truly ever Happy?
Before I go into my tirade of text, my answer is no.
If I were to attempt to justify the reason as to why we cannot, most would probably dis-spell this and just call me a sad, lonely man that probably doesn’t know what happiness really is.
In some ways, I’d be inclined to agree with that point of view, however, happiness is fleeting. Happiness to me is like getting a rush from something (i.e biological chemical stimulation) that leads to a short lived form of euphoria.
Like much addictions, once that “high” is gone, one’s self worth plummets as one attempts to achieve the next “high”. I look at happiness like this and I cannot comprehend the lifestyles and decisions that people make to either find happiness or fit the typical happiness profile as created by society at large.
What is Happiness in regards to the expectation of Society?
- Winning the lottery. (Material Happiness and the overbearing fear of losing it all.)
- Getting Married. (Conformity to the expectations of Society as well as a sign of Biological Prowess)
- Getting a great and highly paid job. (Self enforced slavery and conforming to the expectations of Society)
- Buying a big house and a nice car. (Again Material Happiness and conforming to the Status Quo requirements of Society)
- Having Kids. (Again Biological Prowess and confining oneself to a life that’s very challenging and difficult in terms of lateral movement)
- Going on vacations to exotic locations. (Status Quo and feeling the need to flaunt one’s resources to Society)
- Buying the latest and greatest gadgets. (Compensating for one’s own self-worth by artificially feeling the void by attempting to join the cool crowd created by Society)
- Going on a huge shopping spree. (Compulsive Behavior conditioned by the ill-defined term of “Retail Therapy”, which causes over spending and waste with no true therapeutical benefits other than buyers remorse due to over-spending.)
- And much, much more.
Happiness is something so broadly scoped and quite ambiguously defined that I find it almost an impossibility that happiness does exist. I see so many people going through their lives thinking that their happy but looking beneath the surface, all I see is drudgery and a life that’s pretty much unfulfilled.
I suspect to many that the following rings true even though they believe that they are happy.
- There always isn’t enough money.
- I wish I had more time to spend on my own projects.
- I wish I did not have to work in an Office with other colleagues.
- I wish I had spent more time with my Kids as they are growing up.
- I wish I was the boss calling the shots.
- I wish I had a better life and a true purpose in it.
- I am not living my dreams.
- I did not expect my life to turn out this way. (For better or worse)
- What can I do? This is life and I have to accept it.
Personally, I’ve always been quite an odd one when it comes to my interpretation of life. My philosophy has changed in the past few years and I’ve come to the conclusion that the best solution is to just live life simply.
Quick and easy is what I say, why burden yourself by requiring to sacrifice yourself just to fit in to Society? If this is the only life we have, why should we make ourselves miserable by hiding our true selves just so we can get that placebo feeling of acceptance and happiness from others?
Why can’t we ourselves define the scopes and requirements of Happiness and not have to consider the ramifications of the judgments of others? Being ostracized from Society could actually be a good thing for I feel that Society at large has turned into somewhat hostile beast to those it does not recognize, as good as your intentions maybe.
In closing, I’m sure you’re asking yourself, “So al-holic, since you sound like a smart ass and know it all, why don’t you then tell us, how do we find happiness, if you’d be so inclined?”.
My answer is, sadly, “I don’t know”.
All I can say ultimately in the end concerning my definition and desire for happiness is, do not be a hypocrite, treat others as you want them to treat you and as always, try to not take everything too personally and move on as quickly as possible.
I think I am the happiest when I am doing work and projects that I am interested in and do not like to report to people that I do not find any respect for. There have been very few people that I’ve met that I tremendously respect in life and I am sadden that the possibility of ever feeling fulfilled by it has somewhat long passed.
I leave you now with a quote that I found quite stimulating to my mind that I hope will also allow you to question the things we consider common in life.
The man who trims himself
to suit everybody will soon
whittle himself away.
— Charles Schwab
Thank you for reading this post. Do please comment on what you define as Happiness. Oh and by the way, it is nice to be back. =)